Election results can stir up a whirlwind of emotions—hope, relief, disappointment, frustration. It’s completely natural to feel overwhelmed, especially when the outcomes clash with our deepest hopes or values. No matter where you stand, taking time to process these emotions and finding a way to move forward is vital.

As I write this, I'm feeling the weight of an emotional hangover. I'm worrying and wondering how I'll navigate seeing people who don’t share my feelings in the days ahead. They’re celebrating, while I’m struggling with sadness. It feels heavier this time, somehow harder, even though I know we've been here before.

There must be a path forward, a way to heal and find common ground. It’s not easy, but we'll find our way one step at a time. As a coach, I’m committed to being present for my family, friends, and clients. Those who know me well understand that writing is one of my go-to tools for finding clarity and comfort.

As you move through your own journey—whether you’re feeling grief, happiness, loss, disappointment, joy, or disbelief—remember to take care of yourself and approach others with empathy. Let’s navigate this time in a way that’s healthy and constructive, meeting each other where we are.

Allow Yourself to Process Your Feelings

First and foremost, permit yourself to feel whatever emotions come up. Take time to acknowledge them without judgment. I’ll admit, I wasn’t particularly proud of my feelings on Wednesday morning, and watching the arguments unfold on social media didn’t help. But I must accept that this is simply where I am right now.

Consider finding a healthy outlet—such as journaling, talking with friends, or taking a quiet walk—to help process what’s on your heart and mind. I’ve decided to go ahead with my planned Friendsgiving celebration, even though I thought about canceling. Focusing on gratitude and the people I cherish will be part of my process of healing and reflection.

Find Your Community

Connecting with others who share similar feelings can bring comfort. Share your thoughts and take time to listen to theirs. I noticed many of my friends doing "mental health check-ins" on Election Day—reaching out to each other was reassuring as we all navigated each moment. Wednesday morning, we continued the conversation; even though many texts came back with broken heart emojis, it felt good to know we were in it together. Being part of a supportive community reminds us we're not alone and can help ease feelings of isolation or frustration.

Limit News and Social Media

With information coming at us constantly, it’s easy to get swept up in nonstop news cycles, which can heighten difficult emotions. During the 2020 lockdown, I was glued to every moment of the last election—the updates, the commentary, every twist. This time, I approached things differently. I stayed aware but avoided getting too wrapped up in it all, hearing the latest mostly through texts from friends in the morning. When I saw the negativity flooding social media, I decided to step back to focus on myself without the noise. Taking intentional breaks from news and social media can give your mind time to recharge. It’s not about ignoring reality; it’s about giving yourself a more balanced mental diet.

Focus on Positive Actions

Channeling your energy into positive actions can be incredibly empowering. Whether it’s volunteering, supporting a cause, or making small positive changes in your life, acting brings a sense of control and purpose. Simple gestures, like reaching out to a friend or donating, can create a meaningful impact.

I decided to focus on where I could be most helpful—through coaching. I offered complimentary sessions to my current clients, close friends, and those in my volunteer groups. Every small effort counts, and it felt rewarding to put myself out there, even if only a few take me up on the offer.

Life Goes On

Even in uncertain times, maintaining a hopeful outlook is essential. Life continues, and it’s worth reflecting on your long-term goals and considering how to progress toward them, regardless of the political climate. I have professional goals, including goals for my coaching practice and trips I’m planning for 2025. Focusing on family, health, and these personal aspirations keeps me motivated and resilient. Holding on to your sense of purpose can make a big difference in staying grounded and moving forward.

Cultivate Kindness

Finally, remember that you’re not alone in navigating these challenging times—we’re all facing them together. Practice kindness and empathy, both for yourself and for others. While we may have different opinions, treating one another with respect is a small but powerful step toward unity.

I’ve felt anger and disappointment toward those who didn’t share my views, but I’ve asked myself, what does that accomplish? I’ve realized that kindness truly changes everything. I don’t have to agree with someone’s opinions or be their best friend, but I can accept them for who they are, just as I hope others will accept me. Whether it's holding the door open, giving up my seat on the subway, or simply saying "Good morning," small acts of kindness can make a big difference. I want to be an example.